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Happy Hour with Kelly 001

Love all of the positive inspiration! Happy Hour with Kelly Winters

Happy Hour with Kelly Winters

Happy hour with Kelly! Now that sounds like fun, right?! 🙂

Happy Hour with Kelly is a new weekly series on my blog that I’m soooo excited about! Every Friday, we’ll meet here for Happy Hour. Woohoo! But let’s be real. Not a lot holds my interest for a full hour, so it’ll probably be more like 10 minutes. 

 

During this time, I’ll tell you the things that I’m the most grateful for during the week. You’ll probably learn a lot of new stuff about me – deeper stuff that I haven’t shared before. You’ll get glimpses and pictures of what my everyday life looks like. I’m almost positive that you’ll see a lot of pics of my handsome, furry, 4-legged son, Bently. And then after you finish reading,  I want you to tell me the things you’re most grateful for during the past week. I want to learn more about you! It’ll be really fun! 

 

Why am I doing Happy Hour with Kelly?

When I was at the lowest low of my life a few years ago and everything was ripped out from under me (seriously, I was in such a low place that I didn’t care if I lived anymore), the thing that turned my life around was starting a gratitude journal. I will share my story with you soon. To be honest, the emotions are still a bit too raw, but I’m almost feeling brave enough to share it. But ever since starting my gratitude journal, my life began bursting with joy, happiness, freedom and abundance. 

 

Did my circumstances change? No, not at first. In fact, nothing changed on the outside for months. But I experienced such a profound inner shift from the gratitude journal that I began to meet those challenges with ease, gratefulness for the lessons they taught me and a truly joyful spirt. Gratitude really can change everything! I’m living proof of that!

 

It’s my hope that having a conversation about our weekly gratitude here in Happy Hour with Kelly will get some gratitude, positivity and joy flowing to you! Writing down your gratitude helps train your mind to see the day in a whole new perspective. You’ll start to see that good things, miracles even, are truly everywhere, even in the very darkest of situations. And then pretty soon, you’ll start to notice that all you have are good days! Don’t believe that can happen? Put it to the test! Try it with me and see for yourself 🙂 

 

Gratitude Meme Happy Hour with Kelly

 

My Gratitude for this Week:

I had 2 things, in particular, happen to me this week that made me overflow with gratefulness.

 

Gratitude #1: Flowers in every room of my house!

Tulips from Happy Hour with Kelly

 

I was having an especially hard week, emotionally. I’m doing a lot of personal development work –  mainly working on releasing a lot of old emotions and negative beliefs that are holding me back from moving forward with a big goal of mine. This past week I was feeling uncharacteristically down as I revisited, rode the wave and released many difficult emotions from my past. 

 

So what’s this have to do with flowers? Well, flowers are my very most favorite thing! They bring me so much joy. I love looking at them. I love how their mere presence brightens up and beautifies any space. They are so bright, so happy, so joyful, so beautiful. I just love them. 

 

Last week, flower bouquets just started showing up at my house. Bouquets from family, from dear friends, a hand-picked, daffodil bouquet from the neighborhood little boy across the street, even one from one of my old neighbors that I haven’t seen in years! I literally have so many flower bouquets that there is a bouquet in every room of my house, including all the bathrooms. How amazing is that?!

Tulips from Happy Hour with Kelly
I love all flowers, but if I had to pick a very favorite it would be tulips! Aren’t these pink tulips from my husband gorgeous?!

 

Now, this is not normal at all. In fact, I don’t remember the last time anyone bought me flowers. To have these beautiful bouquets in each room of my house fills my heart with so much joy. Seeing them is like a huge bear hug from God reminding me that I’m loved and that I’m going to be ok. Those flowers continue to be such a blessing and bright spot to me during my emotionally difficult time. I’m so grateful for not only the flowers, but for all the wonderful people who thought of me. 

 

Flowers from Danielle It's a Love Love Thing
These beauties are from the sweetest person I know, Danielle from It’s a Love Love Thing. She is a treasure to me.

 

Gratitude #2: I had a breakthrough today that I’m so grateful for! I love breakthroughs!

My breakthrough: I haven’t given myself permission to rest.

 

I’ve always been a hard worker, an over achiever.  A go-getter, as they say. I get it honest from my mom, who is the hardest working, most energetic woman I know. In many ways, I’m a lot like her. Rest and relaxation can be hard for us. Friends and family call my mom the Energizer Bunny. Road Runner, from the Loony Tunes, was the name lovingly given to me by one of my bosses. “Beep Beep,”  my boss and co-workers would yell whenever I ran buzzing past them.

 

But the body needs rest in order to grow, thrive, heal and run it’s very best.  In fact, rest and relaxation are some of the most important things we can do for our body! 

 

There were so many times when I felt my body screaming, “you need to slow down. Relax. Take it easy. Don’t work so hard.” 

 

I was so hardheaded that I wouldn’t listen until my body literally forced me to rest. I would come down with something that would knock me flat on my back for usually weeks at a time. Fourteen broken bones in my foot in the year of 1998. Torn Achilles in 2000. Pneumonia in 2002. Mono in 2004. Car accident in 2006. Lyme Disease in 2008. Anyone see a pattern here? 

 

You’d think that I would have listened after all that, but no, I was still as hardheaded as ever. So in 2010 my life started to come crumbling down until it was in shambles and all I could do was surrender and listen. Life (God) will keep getting your attention until the only thing you can do is listen. It whispers at first. But if you’re especially hardheaded like me, it will knock you flat on your back and may even take everything away so the only thing you can do is listen. 

 

(Sidenote — I can’t help it, I’m a teacher at heart haha! Pay special attention to those feelings you habitually resist. What you resist, persists! Releasing your greatest resistances will uncover your greatest treasures.)

 

I’m proud to say that I have finally learned to listen and to tune in very well to are my body’s gentle whispers (Yay! Making progress!), but just today I realized that somewhere deep down inside of me that I felt guilty about resting. As if somehow it wasn’t ok to not do anything. Like I had to do something or accomplish things to feel worthy.

 

In fact, just this past week, my body was telling me to take it easy on myself as I was going through all my emotional stuff. So I listened and blew off 2 days of work to enjoy the gorgeous warm spring weather. I did nothing but drink homemade green tea frappuccinos and lay out in the sunshine. Sounds lovely, right? But here’s the thing: I spent most of the days feeling so guilty about not doing something productive. I beat myself up in my head. I called myself lazy saying things like, “a real go-getter would use this time off to work on her goals or do something productive. You could at least work on your blog or clean your house.” I was totally shaming myself for resting.

 

Severe criticism of myself is my personal toxin and something I’m continually working on releasing. When I finally realized how much I was critizing myself when I should have been enjoying my freebie rest days, my breakthrough came. And it came while I was resting, may I add! Rest, doing absolutely nothing, but just being present with yourself, forces you listen to what message God is trying to tell you. My breakthrough of the day: I may have learned to listen to the whispers, but deep down, I still had not given myself permission to rest.

 

So from now on, I am giving myself permission to rest. I am worthy of rest. It’s not only ok to rest, it’s crucial for me and for my health. Rest is good. It’s very good. There’s nothing for me to feel guilty about. Negativity be gone! I’m so grateful for that breakthrough! 

 

Now I want to hear from you! What about your week are you most grateful for? Did you learn anything new this week that you’re especially happy about? Please share!!! I’m so excited to read about all your good stuff that happened! Big things, small things, simple things, they are all very good things and I can’t wait to hear about them! Let’s all inspire each other to live with more gratitude!

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11 comments

  1. Wow, Kelly, thanks for opening up! I can totally relate…keeping a gratitude journal has been life changing for me. Reading “The Magic” and working through the exercises helped me in so many ways. And I can relate to your guilt about just resting. I always feel like there is something else
    I should be doing. This week I am extremely grateful for the longer days of Spring, which I find energizing, and my adorable dog KO who keeps me company, makes me laugh every day, and forces me to walk even if I don’t feel like it! Enjoy the rest of your week and get some rest!!!!

  2. Patrick O'Flaherty

    Hey Kelly,

    I’m not sure if you partake in regular exercise or not but you can monitor your stress / recovery / readiness levels by simply daily tracking of your pulse. Your orthostatic pulse variance is the difference between your 1 minute laying pulse and your 1 minute standing pulse first thing in the morning upon wakening. Your standing pulse will almost always be faster than laying but the smaller the difference, generally the better your body is coping with the collective and accumulative stresses of life, both good and bad. Let me know and I’ll send you the protocol along with some other fun tests that measure the nervous system status?

    • Kelly from Primally Inspired

      Hi Patrick! Yes, that sounds great, please send it over! I would love to see it and try everything out. I go to the chiropractor regularly and she has a test that monitors my nervous system. It’s always fascinating to see the results. They are normally in the very good to excellent zone (I’m very active and manage my stress levels pretty well now), but this past week as I was dealing with all my emotional stuff, the nervous system test results were horrid! The mind-body stuff always fascinates me and I loving learning all that I can. Thank you for thinking of me!

  3. When we first moved to our large property I had a meltdown in June every year because of the abundance of weeds in every flower bed, all the while still creating more flower beds to maintain! Middle age caught up with us and we’ve put a moratorium on new garden beds and simplified the ones we have and their maintenance. Eventually I got over expecting to have a “display garden” and now I just enjoy what’s blooming when and where, and ignore the rest, if it’s not a good time to pull weeds. I’d much rather pick flowers and make bouquets!

    For me being able to fully rest means relinquishing the quest for perfection. I know there is only One who is perfect and I am not Him. Gratitude really only works when we have a relationship with the Giver, and I am spending more time reading His love letters and instructions to me, and talking with Him. That is His desire, but it also takes a huge load of stress off of me. This spring I am grateful for early blooms, the sunshine, a new vegetable bed and greenhouse for citrus trees, and the day I was motivated in February to wash all the outside windows of the house to enjoy the outdoors, even from inside (I won’t mention how many years that had been on my to-do list!)

  4. *sniff, sniff* :*) Kelly, I am so glad I scrolled and found this post! I LOVE Happy Hour with Kelly! I so agree, gratitude is life-changing!!! You’ve reminded me that I have a gratitude journal that I need to dig out and USE!! I’m so happy for your abundance of beautiful flowers. And yes, I have been hearing that word “rest” for almost a year and have hardly listened. Time to listen!! I love you, sweet friend!!! Thanks for sharing and teaching us. <3 <3 <3

  5. Hi Kelly,

    I am a DYT Type 1 and 1 found DYT a few months before I found you. I too have issues with resting, I was often told that I too was an energizer bunny who was too much, others claimed they got tired just watching me. I felt guilty anytime I wasn’t being “productive”. My health has suffered as well, and I too am learning to rest, relax and take it easy more. Music and flowers speak to me. You are so inspiring to me, and I am glad I happened upon your blog. I often remind myself that God made only one you, that each of us is unique and that he can’t use if we are trying to be someone we are not…or not taking care of ourselves. Every night, as I climb into bed, I focus on 5 things that I am happy and grateful for…it brings me peace, and improves sleep. I’m getting better, keep smiling girl, you make a bigger difference that you know, and God is using you for good. You touch many peoples lives, even if you don’t know it at the time.

    I am grateful for YOU!!!

    • Kelly from Primally Inspired

      Julie, your encouragement made my day today! Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me – it means so much!! I especially love your reminder that we are each so unique and special and that we truly bless others when we are living true to the way God made us. As a recovering people pleaser and perfectionist, living completely true to myself is still a daily challenge. Your comment was so inspiring to me – I’m really grateful you wrote in <3

  6. Yes! I’m the same way. I feel SO guilty when I rest or just don’t feel like I did enough during the day. I feel like I should always be working on the business, cleaning my house, doing something productive. It’s hard to just chill out! So glad I’m not the only one.

    I’m lovin’ this new happy hour idea Kelly!

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